With shows like 90 Day Fiance, Catfish, and 90 Days To Wed dominating the reality show screens, the popularity of online dating is undeniable. According to a study published in the National Academy of Science, online dating is now the most popular way couples meet – overtaking traditional methods like family and social gatherings. Equally popular have been international dating websites or apps, specifically tailored to those looking for love beyond their borders.
One good example is Tinder’s Passport feature, which allows single people to connect with romantic interests from across the world. As with any long-distance relationship, the moments of meeting in person can be filled with anticipation, excitement, and in the first instance, uncertainty. Thanks to the uniqueness of this dating arrangement, making the right preparations is crucial to helping your first meeting go well. From timing your meeting well to finding a hobby to help you on long flights, here’s how to make your first flight for love a success.
Is It The Right Time For You To Meet In Person?
Researchers from the University of South Florida found that the longer you wait to meet an online love interest, the more you risk developing inaccurate expectations. According to the researchers, the ideal meeting time frame is 23 days. However, there is much more than science that goes into deciding the best time to make the trip and meet an online partner.
For instance, you want to leave enough time to get to know the person and do some research. A flip side of online dating is the ability to project inaccurate personas, such as hidden red flags. Online dating red flags like disappearing for chunks of time or avoiding personal topics of conversation may give you a clue it is not worthwhile making the long trip for love – at least not right now. To succeed in online international dating, patience is a must-have.
A personal tip I can add from experience when meeting somebody online in person for the first time, is to the try and catch up immediately from where you left off online. It can be awkward, and unnecessary, if you try to start all over again simply because you’re? meeting face-to-face for the first time. So the best practical advice I can give is to pick it up as though you’ve met hundreds of times already, while keeping your safety in mind at all times.
Generally, you know each other so well at this point that you’re almost like old friends. And that adds to the excitement because it’s like meeting a friend but you’ve already had for a long time. Remember, this is supposed to be a fun experience (potentially one of your best ever). Traveling is a beautiful way to experience the world and an amazing way to share and spend time with someone special. It is romantic, and you’ll have the rose-tinted glasses effect too. So use all of this to your advantage. Take all the precautions necessary but don’t treat it like an interview. Go have fun!
Pick A Location And Activity You Are Comfortable With For The First Few Meetings
It is also important that you take steps to protect yourself when cyberdating. This includes avoiding giving out any financial or personal details, and when meeting in person, picking a location you are familiar with. Online dating scams are now commonplace, with cybercriminals looking to fleece money out of unsuspecting online daters. In the case of travelling, chances are that you will find yourself in an unfamiliar meeting place. If so, opt for a public place such as a restaurant or a well-populated park. You also want to let at least one person know where you will be meeting.
You also want to let at least one person know where you will be meeting.
To ensure you are comfortable and have a great first meeting, choose an activity you are both comfortable with and keep it brief by choosing a date like meeting for coffee. With an international meeting, you will have more than one occasion to see each other, so you want to keep that initial meeting short. Lastly, think of an exit plan you can use if the meeting isn’t going well or you begin to feel uncomfortable. Whether it is having a friend call with an emergency or having an excuse made up, it helps to have a way out if you need one.
Practice Your Conversation Prompts Before Meeting For The First Time
One of the great benefits of long-distance relationships and online dating is that it allows you to build an emotional connection with your partner. Long phone and instant messaging conversations or video calls are not uncommon in those first months leading up to your meeting. This gives you both a chance to focus on each other’s personality and compatibility before incorporating physical chemistry or connection.
However, in your first in-person meeting you may find that the conversation does not flow quite as well as you hoped. Perhaps you end up not feeling a physical connection when you do meet, or become overcome with anxiety and anticipation. In this case, it is always a great idea to practice conversation starters or topics to eliminate that first date awkward silence.
Finally, define your deal breakers. In a romantic relationship, each individual has their own set of pet peeves or qualities they could accept. Define yours, and brush up on any red flags you may want to look for. Above all, enjoy the adventure of exploring and enjoying the beauty of the world – and love.